Thursday, March 21, 2013


Hey everyone, for those of you who actually read this blog. 

I found this on my FB page tonight and remember reading the exact same thing years ago. I go by this mantra and these words of wisdom when it comes to relationship... whether its my own or if I'm advising someone else. 

There are no better pearl of knowledge/words of wisdom or heck whatever the bloo*dy h**ell it is. I mean if you watch a talk show they are basically saying the same thing in different ways or with very subtle... differences. 

I would love to accredit the original author of this work. So Ms/Mr Author if you ever stumble upon my humble site and want me to put a name to your work I would be honoured to do so. Just let me know and give me some proof will ya? I'm a pretty easy going person. 

Without much ado, this is the words:


During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends.
Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this 

question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you 
fall in love with your partner. You 

anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard.

 In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO 

anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that 

you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being 

together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always 

welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you

 nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic 

difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry 

subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as

 you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience

 with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the 

person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital

 fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people 

turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this

 dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the 

Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and

day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. 

You have to know...

WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner),

 Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for

 relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who 

you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

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